Have you ever put yourself into a stressful situation by agreeing to something you really didn't want to do? Why did you say "yes"? Was it because you couldn't say no? Don't allow yourself to get into that predicament any longer. Instead, keep your healthy thinking in tact by learning to say no when you mean it.
It's simple and it's straight to the point. Sometimes it can feel too direct, but sometimes it's exactly what you need to say to avoid any unnecessary situations or feelings.
2. No, I'm not interested.
If it doesn't sound fun or interesting don't be afraid to point that out. While some uncomfortable experiences may be worth your while, there's no need to add an extra layer of anxiety by coaxing yourself into doing something that you're just not that interested in.
3. No, thank you.
Now, this is a safe play. You're saying no, but you're still acknowledging the ask.
4. Thanks, but I can't.
There's no need for explanation as to why you can't, just leave it as you cannot. And definitely, don't make up an excuse or lie that you'll have to dig yourself out of later.
5. Thanks for thinking of me, no thanks.
Begin your sentence with gratitude to allow the let down to feel a bit more smooth.
6. Sounds tempting, but no.
But it will be fun, they'll say. This no acknowledge their excitement but still gives you the out with a solid no.
7. Ask another time
This response is fantastic for those that know they may have some follow up or guilt. It acknowledges that you are just not in the right place or frame of mind, but they do have your permission to ask when you are.
8. Let me think about it
Maybe you're not quite ready to say no, but don't want the anxiety of the on-the-spot answer. Let it go and give yourself some time with a let me think about it. Just be prepared for their request to pop up again.
9. I appreciate you thinking about me, but no.
Like the thanks for thinking of me, this time you're giving appreciation for the thought. There is a difference in that you are acknowledging them reaching out to you and and giving gratitude for thinking of you.
10. I'll pass.
It's a bit softer than a straight no, but still gives solid foundation in your answer.
11. Not this time.
Sometimes, you truly don't want to do something now. Maybe it's a stressful time in your life, your anxiety is high or you simply don't have time in your schedule. Whatever it is, saying "not this time" will keep invitations open in the future.
12. That isn't doable for me.
Asks can be heavy and if it, let your requester now that isn't something your capable of. It doesn't show your weakness. As matter-of-fact, this answer shows your strength in knowing both your boundaries and limitations.
13. I'm booked.
If all else fails, use your schedule as your response. If your time later frees up, you can revisit the request or use that precious time for self care.
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